Stuff I Probably Shouldn’t Have Said

Getting Old Sucks

“Getting old sucks” is a common comment; mostly heard from less experienced people approaching the fourth quarter of life.

Many stages of life come with challenges; teenager angst, sleep-deprived new parents, harried working moms and caring for aging parents.

Growing old does come with some harsh realities; losing friends, ill health, and coming to grips with one’s immortality. I’d argue growing old has the advantage of freedom over most of the other life stages.

For instance, you accept the fact that some people love you and some people don’t like you. You don’t care one way or the other, immediate family excepted, (in some instances.)

You can stay up late; watch mindless television and eat buttered popcorn without one scintilla of guilt.

Skipping the gym one day is justifiable; you lifted that heavy bottle of vodka to prepare your daily martini or two. And everyone knows calories consumed by food ingested standing over the kitchen sink do not count.

Wearing sweats nearly everywhere puts you right up there with fashion-forward soccer moms, not that you care. You ditched stilettos, dresses and on occasion, certain undergarments and still feel good about yourself.

Older people are marginalized for being clueless, so use it to your advantage. Park guilt-free in the supermarket online pick-up lane. If confronted you can get away with a vague, clueless facial expression indicating you didn’t know.

You can eat at 4:00 pm if you like and care less about the early bird dinner jokes.

The most under-rated benefit of growing old is the ability to endure thanks to a lifetime of experience. Some people have not had the advantage of life’s learning experiences. The next time I hear someone complain “getting old sucks,” I’m going to bless their heart.

Go Figure

“If logic doesn’t form the basis of opinion, logic can’t change that opinion.”

I wish I’d said it; I did not. I wish I’d read it sooner. Perhaps this explanation would have softened my feelings about people I’m fond of but who support tRump.

I believe those who support him have extremely impaired values. I’ll go even farther and state I put as much space between those folks and myself as possible.

Today I ran into our resident handyman, an ardent DJT supporter, who also happens to be a decent, honest guy. We’ve had many discussions about his political opinions and manage to maintain civility.

I couldn’t understand how he can support a man who has zero redeeming characteristics. He had no issues with POTUS denigrating, women, Hispanics, African Americans and anyone who does not appear to have Nordic characteristics.

Surely mocking a disabled journalist would cause any decent person to rethink their loyalties. None of those offenses was the silver bullet that shattered his belief.

He had not supported Trump based on logic. I have a hunch his opinions were formed by too much talk show radio and too many television preachers.

I’m going to hazard a guess that it was full throttle fear that caused his change of heart.

Logic did not prevail for the 2016 election and is glaringly absent from most of our elected officials.

Fear can be a powerful motivator when logic fails. I’m hoping a lot of folks are scared to death right now.

A Return to Standard Time

This weekend we set our clocks back and returned to standard time.

Wouldn’t it be a relief if we could set back time and return to a higher standard of national leadership?

As a nation, we survived puritans, wars, prohibition, the roaring twenties, Woodstock and Nixon. During each era, self-appointed sages predicted our downfall and a one-way ticket to damnation. That didn’t happen due to responsible leadership and the fact that most Americans are caring and conscientious.

January 17, 2017, ended a period of civility and morality and heralded a decline in intellect and common decency in leadership. Regardless of who the next President is, it will take years to recover from the effect of unchallenged dereliction.

If most of us are conscientious and caring how did we elect leaders who are the antithesis of our values?

None of these theories provide guidance as to how we apologize to our children and grandchildren who will bear the burden of uninformed choices.

Historically generation gaps highlight the wisdom and efforts of the predecessor, but wisdom was glaringly absent during the 2016 election.

We can be thankful that survivors of the Parkland shooting and young Greta Thunberg are not wasting time waiting for apologies or excuses.

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